Afternoon blogworld;
A question I struggle with often living in an oil town that has too much money and whose inhabitants view other's worth in regards to big houses, vehicles and nice clothes is what is worth?
I struggle with how worth should be measured, how I view other people and how other people around me view me.
I have a great job at a small business (two locations) that deals in Agriculture equipment. I have my own office and make a decent wage. I went to college for a year and a half to get my Legal Admin diploma and am very happy with what I ended up doing even though it wasn't necessarily for that specific job.
Alot of times though I feel like I'm not "good" enough. Don't get me wrong, I have a better job than most of my friends who have their four year university degree. I don't envy them, I chose not to go to university and I'm glad I did what I did. I didn't want a four year degree in arts or classics or nursing, I didn't want to go to school for five years and be a teacher or an engineer. I wanted to go to school for nine years to be a veterinarian with a specialty in zoology. But I made my choice, did I want to be in school until I was thirty or did I want to be almost directly in a career that I really do enjoy.
We live in this world that all too often measures worth in these very material regards, expensive vehicles, nice houses, designer clothing, university degrees, college diplomas. Especially an oil town like I live in.
Shouldn't worth be based on how we treat others, how we live our lives, how much kindness we show to others.
I live by trying to go out of my way to be pleasant and kind to everyone because you really have no idea what they've been through or are currently struggling with.
This year alone I've dealt with two deaths of people close to me, a death of a friend's child, and a death of a close friend's friend's brother. As well as the accident in March which took away a life I will never know, but that will effect me forever. It made my future uncertain, and turned my world upside down.
I don't tell people this, because it makes people uncomfortable. But all the same, I am not bitter, and I still try to treat everyone with absolute kindness because that's what most people deserve.
I also stumbled upon the BLM community. Which is amazing. They all support eachother through the hardest of times, no matter the social standing or where they work. They're all still Mamas.
I miscarried very early when I was seventeen.
My life would have been incredibly different, it's not something I wanted in fact my high school "sweetheart" doesn't even know it happened as he was from an extreme religious family. No, it was not my plan to get pregnant at seventeen, no I'm not particularly proud of that or the choices I made at seventeen but it happened and it also changed who I was.
All I've ever wanted was to be a Mama. And knowing; even though it would have been the hardest thing ever, that I could have been still breaks my heart.
I guess what it all comes down to is; how do you measure worth for yourself?
I'm not going to measure worth by the car someone drives but how they treat others.
And I'll always try to be kind, because you never know what people are going through.
That was long and rambling & slightly all over the place, but I hope it made you think and that you'll say something kind to someone today just because; they're worth it.
<3 love, and sunshine
Alex
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